What is "NORMAL"?

Everyone talks about the "new normal" after you lose a child. I don't believe "normal" will ever return to my house after my 18 year old son, Max, was killed in a car crash on 8/6/10. "Normal Died With Max", and this blog is about the life I have without him.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Strange Ponderings

Originally posted as a facebook note on 9/29/10 - When working through the death of a loved one, your mind processes so many crazy things.  Yesterday, it was the physics of why someone loses shoes during a car wreck.  Today, it's how they stop being a flesh and blood person on this earth when they die.  Within hours, medical teams are taking organs and tissues to be used for other flesh and blood people.  They are 'processed' into the business of death - coroners, funeral home people, all who never knew the ideas and wonderfulness of the person.  That person no longer has "plans" for the future.  College, job, saving money for vacation next summer, what are we going to do for the holidays this year - all that is no more.  No more. It just ceases.  You no longer need to worry about food.  Or clothing.  Or sleeping in.   You no longer need "stuff". 

I can see why people have a hard time accepting that the body & spirit are two different things - we are used to seeing them both in "one package", it seems strange to think about them really being two different things.  Death really clarified that for me far beyond what I ever understood before.  Seeing Max's body in that casket REALLY helped me understand that the spirit, the essence that was Max, is long gone, and was gone on the side of that highway the very second his heart stopped beating.  

I realize that the spirit lives on in a completely healed form in heaven.  That Max's future is there, as is my entire family including myself.  And I have pondered on that and will again many times I am sure.

But today, it's what we know *here* that I am wrapping my brain around.

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