What is "NORMAL"?

Everyone talks about the "new normal" after you lose a child. I don't believe "normal" will ever return to my house after my 18 year old son, Max, was killed in a car crash on 8/6/10. "Normal Died With Max", and this blog is about the life I have without him.

Monday, September 26, 2011

Surviving The Loss of a Child by Elizabeth B. Brown

Originally posted on facebook 8/28/11
"The early days of grief are a period no parent gets through.  It's just an existence of nonexistence and anguish.  The beginning of survival comes much later.   Nothing can destroy your world like losing a child.  It is devastating on a level that most people can't imagine.  Once you have experienced such a tragedy, you may feel that you will never again be able to live with peace and joy. From the first day your child is deceased, you must consciously begin to make the decisions to live.  You must choose to survive, for if you fail to make the conscious decision, you and your family will fall apart.  Successful survival will be the most difficult task of your life.  Either you will make it, whole and filled with God's love, new insights, and even tighter family bonds; or you fail, bringing down your marriage, children, and all other relationships. "

These are a few sentences from the first chapter of the new grief book I am reading by Elizabeth Brown.  Tonight I learned of a third grieving mom who chose to end her life in the past two months.  With each senseless death, it pushes me further into my resolve to find healing and peace ... it is out there, and I am willing to fight for it.  My family is worth it.  I am worth it.   Grieving mamas, please join me ... find a way to take your next breath, step up your self care, reach for a new grief book, go to a new support group, call a friend.  Do not give in to the despair and darkness.  Even though it doesn't FEEL temporary, IT IS.  Speak truth into your darkness and call on THE LIGHT that Jesus offers.

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