What is "NORMAL"?

Everyone talks about the "new normal" after you lose a child. I don't believe "normal" will ever return to my house after my 18 year old son, Max, was killed in a car crash on 8/6/10. "Normal Died With Max", and this blog is about the life I have without him.

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Max's Room

My therapist is like a bull dog, she just DIG, DIG, DIGS until she finds something that needs brought out.  Today, I was telling her that Wesley wants to move his bed out of his room and move a couch/pull out bed in.  We have told him no.  I know we are being unreasonable, but I have all kinds of things attached to moving beds around apparently. 

Todd & Wesley moved Trinity's bed out of Max's room the night he went to KC into the burb.  (Maybe if we never moved the bed, Max wouldn't have been able to take it back to KC and wouldn't have crashed....)  Max was going to bring home his futon from Trinity's apartment in KC and put it in his room.  The crash happened on the way home with the futon in the back.  (Which we couldn't recover, probably wouldn't have wanted to if we could!) 

So Max's room sits empty with no bed in it.  And for some reason, ???  I do not want Wesley to move his bed in there.  So I am supposed to journal about this and see if I can figure out what is behind this ... the things you deal with in grief don't seem logical all the time!

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