What is "NORMAL"?

Everyone talks about the "new normal" after you lose a child. I don't believe "normal" will ever return to my house after my 18 year old son, Max, was killed in a car crash on 8/6/10. "Normal Died With Max", and this blog is about the life I have without him.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Physical Healing & The Laws of Physics (graphic)

I had a nasty paper cut on my thumb from opening the mail this week.  It got infected and it bled and hurt so stinkin much!  So I cleaned it up a couple of times with peroxide and neosporin, and covered it with a bandaid.  Today I glanced at it and realized that it is healing up.  New skin has grown and it no longer bleeds.  I read an interesting link about how God designed our amazing bodies to heal with our blood flow.  (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1967.html - if you want to read the whole thing).

I have the attention span of a gnat right now, but I sat on the porch and pondered this healing and wondered why Max's body couldn't heal that day on the side of the highway after the crash.  How was he gone so quickly?  What happened?

A concept introduced to me by my moms grief support group leader is that the laws of physics and science always apply.  For instance, a train will always crush a car - the train is bigger!  We live in frail, human bodies.  I never took physics, so I have been reading up on the basics.  Newton's laws of motion describe the relationship between the forces acting on a body and its motion due to those forces.  In a crash, there are three impacts - the vehicle on whatever it hits, the person hitting anything within the vehicle (including the seatbelt), and the internal organs hitting the inside of the body.  Even with the amazing healing aspects of our body, those laws of physics still apply.  Max's body was damaged so far beyond what he could possibly heal from.

I am still struggling as to why some die and some do not, and although I may never understand why MAX had to die, understanding the basic physics of the situation help to make sense of what I struggle with.  I don't know why this gives me any kind of comfort or answers, I guess because it puts it in an academic explanation and removes the emotion from it.  I hope by passing this concept on, you are able to do the same.

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